Those Eyes! Part 2 of “Everything was going great, until t wasn’t” by Coleen Mietzner

This blog is part 2 of "Everything was going great, until t wasn't" published on 7/10/17. In June 2015, I was sitting at an ocean side restaurant in Hawaii having a celebratory dinner with my husband!  It was our 10th wedding anniversary and our 1st vacation without the kiddos.  It was a great time in paradise, recharging from the hustle and bustle at home. As I was sitting there, I heard a Facebook notification on my phone.  It was a friend request from the birth mother of our failed adoption 6 years prior!  When I saw her name, my heart skipped a beat.  So many questions went through my mind.  What was she reaching out to say? Was everything ok?  We hadn't had contact in the past 6 years so…
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Our Hearts Sank. By Kristine Collins

Our Hearts Sank. By Kristine Collins

We had completed four rounds if IUI, a ton of hormones, vitamins, minerals, and most of the grieving process when we decided to adopt privately and it was time to actually start the adoption process. After we had “the talk” we started to research everything adoption and found a few constants. One was a local attorney that was highly recommended by Google, blogs and a couple websites. Walking into an attorney’s office was a bit daunting. The dark wood, formal front desk, big cold leather chairs in the waiting area made us feel quite small, almost like we were waiting to get in trouble. I guess we never gave it much thought but we had many preconceived notions of what attorneys were like. Luckily, she was warm, inviting and very…
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Everything was going great, until it wasn’t! Failed adoptions, not always a scam. By Coleen Mietzner

This blog is a hard one to write.  I experienced a failed (disrupted) adoption at the latest stage possible.  I had been bonding with the expectant mother for 6 months and journaling to the baby girl so I could share what it was like anticipating her arrival. I was documenting everything I learned about her family so that I could share with her as she got older.  For example, when the expectant mother ate chocolate, the baby girl jumped for joy in her belly!  My husband and I chose a name for the baby that meant a lot to us and our family.  The nursery was dolled up and clothes were washed and hung in the closet.  All the legal paperwork was done and paid for, showers were had, FMLA…
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We want to adopt, now what? By Kristine Collins

When you search “adoption” the internet provides billions and billions of results. All of them really boil down to a few options; International, private, agency or foster to adopt. All have the same end result but the methods and cost are very different. We listed the pros and cons of each which made our choice very obvious to us. When my husband and I started to talk about adopting we didn’t do much research on international adoption. Dealing with government agencies, orphanages, and foreign languages was quite daunting to us. We focused on adopting in the U.S.A. exclusively for those reasons and we don’t feel allegiance to any other country. We just had to figure out what path we would follow; private, agency or foster to adopt. Private adoption seemed…
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