Failed Match. Were we ever going to be parents? By Kristine Collins

Failed Match. Were we ever going to be parents? By Kristine Collins

After our failed match, I quickly started to research foster to adopt. This was an avenue we originally decided not to pursue as reunification was the primary goal, I was actually told by an employee that “adoption was a failure of the foster care program” so we didn’t have much hope. We also wanted to adopt an infant, which is possible, but unlikely through the system. I honestly didn’t think I was strong enough to care for a child, bond with the child, then return the child to their parents. All the reasons we had initially for not going this route, were still, heavy on my mind. We felt our experience of our failed match may be a message sent to us to look for our child through another route.…
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A baby that needs us more! By Coleen Mietzner

While my husband and I were grieving our failed adoption, our friends and family would try to make sense of it for us.  We often heard “There is a baby out there that needs you more.”  It was comforting to a point, but we were still broken and, again, waiting. 2 months after the failed adoption, my cousin reached out to me.  She was hesitant, as we were in pain, but she knew she wanted to forward me some information.  She explained to me that her best friend works with a lady whose cousin is pregnant and considering adoption.  Did you follow that?  😊  I have always heard that a large percentage of private adoptions originate this way.  A friend of a friend of a friend etc.  It seemed like…
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Stages of Grief? By Kristine Collins

Stages of Grief? By Kristine Collins

Unexplained Infertility is our diagnosis; which is translated to “the medical community has no idea” why I never got pregnant. We had completed four rounds of intrauterine insemination (IUI) with all the hormones used for IVF. Our fifth IUI resulted in 15 eggs! (way too many = overstimulation) and we had to put it off until the following month. Waiting for the next cycle to begin we started to talk about adoption, nothing specific just asking each other questions to get a feel for how we both felt. One topic we both felt real strong about was that we would finish our infertility treatments before we would ever consider adoption. Going through the adoption process while going though infertility treatments seemed impossible to us as they are both incredibly difficult…
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