She wants to meet us?? Meeting a birthmom By Kristine Collins

She wants to meet us?? Meeting a birthmom By Kristine Collins

My daughter had just turned one and my husband said something along the lines of “how nice it would be if she had a brother or sister to play with”. I took the bait; hook, line and sinker and started the certification process soon after, had photos taken of us together (harder than you think to find a family pic of the three of us) and updated our profile letter. When we were approved by the state to adopt the second time we only told the attorney that matched us with our first daughter’s birthparents and I started to pay attention to the distribution list emails from another attorney I came across our first time around on Facebook. Honestly, I was not ready to add another baby to our family…
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Failed Match. Were we ever going to be parents? By Kristine Collins

Failed Match. Were we ever going to be parents? By Kristine Collins

After our failed match, I quickly started to research foster to adopt. This was an avenue we originally decided not to pursue as reunification was the primary goal, I was actually told by an employee that “adoption was a failure of the foster care program” so we didn’t have much hope. We also wanted to adopt an infant, which is possible, but unlikely through the system. I honestly didn’t think I was strong enough to care for a child, bond with the child, then return the child to their parents. All the reasons we had initially for not going this route, were still, heavy on my mind. We felt our experience of our failed match may be a message sent to us to look for our child through another route.…
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Stages of Grief? By Kristine Collins

Stages of Grief? By Kristine Collins

Unexplained Infertility is our diagnosis; which is translated to “the medical community has no idea” why I never got pregnant. We had completed four rounds of intrauterine insemination (IUI) with all the hormones used for IVF. Our fifth IUI resulted in 15 eggs! (way too many = overstimulation) and we had to put it off until the following month. Waiting for the next cycle to begin we started to talk about adoption, nothing specific just asking each other questions to get a feel for how we both felt. One topic we both felt real strong about was that we would finish our infertility treatments before we would ever consider adoption. Going through the adoption process while going though infertility treatments seemed impossible to us as they are both incredibly difficult…
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Those Eyes! Part 2 of “Everything was going great, until t wasn’t” by Coleen Mietzner

This blog is part 2 of "Everything was going great, until t wasn't" published on 7/10/17. In June 2015, I was sitting at an ocean side restaurant in Hawaii having a celebratory dinner with my husband!  It was our 10th wedding anniversary and our 1st vacation without the kiddos.  It was a great time in paradise, recharging from the hustle and bustle at home. As I was sitting there, I heard a Facebook notification on my phone.  It was a friend request from the birth mother of our failed adoption 6 years prior!  When I saw her name, my heart skipped a beat.  So many questions went through my mind.  What was she reaching out to say? Was everything ok?  We hadn't had contact in the past 6 years so…
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Our Hearts Sank. By Kristine Collins

Our Hearts Sank. By Kristine Collins

We had completed four rounds if IUI, a ton of hormones, vitamins, minerals, and most of the grieving process when we decided to adopt privately and it was time to actually start the adoption process. After we had “the talk” we started to research everything adoption and found a few constants. One was a local attorney that was highly recommended by Google, blogs and a couple websites. Walking into an attorney’s office was a bit daunting. The dark wood, formal front desk, big cold leather chairs in the waiting area made us feel quite small, almost like we were waiting to get in trouble. I guess we never gave it much thought but we had many preconceived notions of what attorneys were like. Luckily, she was warm, inviting and very…
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We are adopting!  By Coleen Mietzner

We are adopting! By Coleen Mietzner

While preparing to adopt, I want you to be aware of not always getting the reaction from family and friends that you may want. When we finished our home study and the social worker called to tell us that we were certified to adopt, we couldn’t have been happier. We just found out we were “paper pregnant”! The courts deemed us qualified to be parents. We were eager to share the news and expected everyone to rejoice in this moment with us! We had been through so much to get to this point (4 failed IVF treatments), this was a grand hurdle to get over and should be celebrated. Unfortunately, in many cases, people who do not have the same experience, don’t know how to react. They remain cautious because…
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