Before you decide to Just Adopt! By Coleen Mietzner

Many people going through fertility treatments wonder if it’s worth the trouble.  Treatments are extremely taxing in many aspects of one’s life.  You are usually physically “off” due to hormones, broke due to cost and lack of medical coverage, emotionally and spiritually questioning faith and Why Me?  If you had a crystal ball and knew the outcome, it would help answer that question of worth.  News flash, there are no crystal balls.  Everyone in this scenario has to make their own decision on when/if to make the switch to adoption.  Loved ones, knowing your struggles, may offer the advice “Just Adopt”.  “Just Adopt”.  Sounds so easy.  I’m going to “just adopt” (sigh). Some couples really struggle with this as one person may be ready to switch gears before the other. …
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Baby is born! Part 2 of “A Baby that needed us more” By Coleen Mietzner

This blog is part 2 of “A Baby that needed us more” published on 8/10/17.  In my previous blog, I explained how we were connected with a potential birth mom.  After meeting this potential birth mom, feeling a connection, connecting her with an attorney, we were anxiously waiting her update from her doctor’s appointment.  Since she had not had any prenatal care to this point, we knew this appointment would confirm a healthy pregnancy, determine due date and maybe even reveal the gender!  It was exciting.  I waited all night for a phone call.  I tried calling the last number I had for her, but no answer. The next morning, feeling a bit discouraged, I went off to work.  Upon arriving and setting up my laptop, my phone rang.  It…
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A baby that needs us more! By Coleen Mietzner

While my husband and I were grieving our failed adoption, our friends and family would try to make sense of it for us.  We often heard “There is a baby out there that needs you more.”  It was comforting to a point, but we were still broken and, again, waiting. 2 months after the failed adoption, my cousin reached out to me.  She was hesitant, as we were in pain, but she knew she wanted to forward me some information.  She explained to me that her best friend works with a lady whose cousin is pregnant and considering adoption.  Did you follow that?  😊  I have always heard that a large percentage of private adoptions originate this way.  A friend of a friend of a friend etc.  It seemed like…
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Everything was going great, until it wasn’t! Failed adoptions, not always a scam. By Coleen Mietzner

This blog is a hard one to write.  I experienced a failed (disrupted) adoption at the latest stage possible.  I had been bonding with the expectant mother for 6 months and journaling to the baby girl so I could share what it was like anticipating her arrival. I was documenting everything I learned about her family so that I could share with her as she got older.  For example, when the expectant mother ate chocolate, the baby girl jumped for joy in her belly!  My husband and I chose a name for the baby that meant a lot to us and our family.  The nursery was dolled up and clothes were washed and hung in the closet.  All the legal paperwork was done and paid for, showers were had, FMLA…
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We want to adopt, now what? By Kristine Collins

When you search “adoption” the internet provides billions and billions of results. All of them really boil down to a few options; International, private, agency or foster to adopt. All have the same end result but the methods and cost are very different. We listed the pros and cons of each which made our choice very obvious to us. When my husband and I started to talk about adopting we didn’t do much research on international adoption. Dealing with government agencies, orphanages, and foreign languages was quite daunting to us. We focused on adopting in the U.S.A. exclusively for those reasons and we don’t feel allegiance to any other country. We just had to figure out what path we would follow; private, agency or foster to adopt. Private adoption seemed…
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